Wrong father attached by others to my ancestor - how do I unlink?
Hello, I am a direct descendant of my great-grandfather James Henry Barnes (LR1S-MQJ). Somebody has assigned him the wrong parents. I am quite certain they are the wrong ones. I want to correct this.
I think the researcher who made the connection mistook James Harold Barnes (KH2M-924, b. 1862)) in the 1870-1880 census records under Marion Barnes (GZZL-X36) for my ancestor, who was born in 1860. The sources under Marion are those two census records, which are also attached to James Harold Barnes.
Here is the full story so you have the complete picture, I apologise if this is TMI or if I seem too worked up over this. :)
James Henry Barnes/Henry Young was illegitimate, per the family story that has been passed down from Henry's son (my grandfather) Charlie A. Young to my dad to me and my siblings. He was born of a female named Barnes and an unknown man. He was taken in or helped by a man named William Young, who was not his father by blood. He went by the surname Barnes (his mother's) through most of his life but some time between 1896 and his death in 1909, he went by Henry Young. He is listed as such on his death certificate, which shows his mother as "Barnes" (no surname) and "William Young" as his father, presumably the closest the family could come without leaving it blank! JHB is also listed in his will as Henry Young.
I was checking on Henry today and saw that somebody has attached a Marion Barnes (GZZL-X36) as his father. I took the 111-marker Family Tree DNA test and got close matches with four men, all surnamed Jackson. I got no paternal line matches with Barnes. The illegitimate father was therefore a Jackson to a high degree of confidence, not a Barnes.
I'm in correspondence with one of my Jackson matches who answered my query and hope to soon ID the genetic father. Two of my four matches listed an earliest known direct male ancestor, and their entries are a father (Col Isaac Jackson of GA) and a son (Isaac's son David Jackson), so those are my direct-line ancestors as well. I have researched the male line from David and ID'd five candidates to have fathered JHB LR1S-MQJ in 1859.
I expect to determine which of the five is my gg-grandfather soon, from a J. Jackson who is the son of one of my matches and who answered to say that after he gets through some current work, he is going to get into his own family history and respond to my request.
How do I break the link to the wrong parents, and do so without offending whomever created the link? I don't want to unlink the Barnes couple only to have somebody else reattach them.
John Kevin Young