I'm trying to find my family

Stephanie86689

My mom was adopted and she died in 2022. All I have are my 2 daughters.vi wanna find my mom's bio family on here.

WKathleenM4

We are happy to help you. Please help us by giving us some more information. To direct you to some good resources we need to know more. Where was your mother born? So what area are you researching? Who were her adoptive parents if they have passed you can use their names. What clues to you already have about your mother, did she have siblings etc.? What is your mother's birth date?

Stephanie86689

My mom's name was Sylvia Belom she was born 12/12/58 in Joliet Illinois she did always mention to me she was told she had a real brother Anthony christo

David A Wilson

@Stephanie86689

Stephanie,

When looking for help in a given state, I like to use ChatGPT (AI tool). This is what it will bring back when asked for resources in Illinois.

1. Licensed Adoption Agencies in Illinois

These agencies assist both birth parents and prospective adoptive families throughout the legal and relational adoption process:

• Adoption Center of Illinois (ACI) – headquartered in Chicago, available 24/7, licensed by Illinois DCFS. Offers counseling, matching services, and post‑adoption support.
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• The Cradle – licensed in Illinois and Indiana, provides education, home‐studies, profiles of waiting families, counseling, and adoption training.
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• Lutheran Child & Family Services of Illinois – works with adoptive families and birth parents, supports newborn and older-child placements, and provides both pre‑ and post‑adoption services.
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These agencies are regulated by Illinois DCFS and only licensed entities can legally facilitate adoption in the state.
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2. Foster-care Adoption & Waiting-Child Match Programs

• Let It Be Us – Adoption Listing Service of Illinois & Heart Gallery: A free program matching licensed foster families with children in Illinois foster care who are legally available for adoption. Includes photos, profiles, and a statewide inquiry line.
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To adopt via foster care, you must become a licensed foster parent (home study required).

3. Registry & Reunion Services (Mutual-Consent Tools)

• Illinois Adoption Registry & Medical Information Exchange (IARMIE): A state registry allowing birth parents to express preferences for contact and share medical information. Facilitates indirect or direct contact later if both parties consent.
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• Confidential Intermediary Service (DCFS contract with Midwest Adoption Center): Helps locate a birth parent or adoptee when the child was not in foster care. Court‑ordered searches, with fees involved.
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• International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR): A national free, mutual‑consent registry for adoptees and birth relatives seeking reconnection. Widely recommended.
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4. Support & Post‑Adoption Resources

• PATH Beyond Adoption (Illinois DCFS program): Offers the PATH hotline (866‑538‑8892) to connect adoptive or birth families to specialized support, preservation services, crisis intervention, and counseling resources.
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• Adoption Center of Illinois—Post-Adoption Support: Maintains an online Adoption Community Connection, support groups, and educational resources.
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• The Cradle also hosts post-adoption counseling, support groups, and education series.
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5. National Resource & Training Support

• National Council For Adoption (NCFA): Offers educational materials and the National Training and Development Curriculum (NTDC), tailored for adoptive families to support trauma-informed parenting and planning.
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🧭 What Each Resource Is Best For:

Situation	Recommended Resource
You’re a birth parent seeking adoptive families	Contact licensed agencies (ACI, The Cradle, LCFSSI)
You’re a prospective adoptive parent	Work with licensed agencies or Let It Be Us (foster-to-adopt)
You want to openly connect later with birth/adoptive family	Register with IARMIE or ISRR
You need ongoing support after placement	PATH Beyond Adoption, ACI or The Cradle support services
You’re looking for national training or guidance	Resources from National Council For Adoption

✅ Next Steps

1. If you’re a birth parent exploring adoption:
   • Contact Adoption Center of Illinois (1‑800‑676‑2229) or The Cradle for counseling, options, and meeting adoptive families.
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2. If you're a prospective adoptive parent:
   • Reach out to the same licensed agencies.
   • If open to foster-care adoption in Illinois, contact Let It Be Us to start the foster licensing and Heart Gallery process.
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3. If you want to facilitate future contact:
   • Fill out IARMIE forms or register via ISRR to allow for mutual‑consent reunions later on.
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4. For ongoing counseling or assistance:
   • Use PATH Beyond Adoption hotline or join support communities through ACI or The Cradle.
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⚠️ Legal and Ethical Considerations

• Only licensed agencies (approved by DCFS) can legally facilitate adoption in Illinois. Do not rely solely on private listings or unlicensed arrangements.
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• Consider if you want an open or closed adoption—open choices allow ongoing contact but require clear expectations and boundaries.
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• Watch out for unregulated practices or expensive matchmaking services—always vet organizations carefully.
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I hope this is helpful.