Child born out of wedlock
My mother was born out of wedlock. Her mother never told her nor did she tell family members who the father was. My mother did not find out she was illegitimate until she was 60 years old and there were no family members of the previous generation alive that could give her answers to her questions. (Family lore was that her mother was at a party where drinking was involved and she was ****) When my mother was 65 yr old, her less active step-father became temple worthy and asked for my mother's permission to be sealed to her mother. My mother was overjoyed and asked if she could also be sealed to them. This occurred in 1972, so we have been following the sealing line as our genealogical line. Just this year a birth certificate emerged indicating my mother's biological father, (who was married to another woman at the time of her birth) Researchers (not in our family) keep attaching the biological father to my grandmother as a "spouse" without record and my mother as a child. This puts his line into Family Search as my direct ancestor line even though the sealed line is checked as preferred. I delete the "spouse" record and put the reason in the notes, but then someone else adds it back in. With a birth certificate now in Family Search, this will probably continue to be a problem. We do not want that biological line to be our genealogical line!! And we certainly don't want our grandmother sealed to this man she was never married to (nor my mother sealed to them) What can I do about this in Family Search records?
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Hola. Un placer comunicarme contigo. Cuanto me apena lo que te ocurre, pues bien te diré que no eres la única persona que piensa así.
Te puedo sugerir que esa información lo coloques en los DETALLES de la vida de tu mamá. Entonces la persona que desea intervenir en tu árbol, leerá y tendrá una remota idea del porque no se desea que la persona que te engendro desea que se vincule a tu árbol.
Sabrás que todos estamos deseosos de ayudar a encontrar a nuestros familiares y antepasados , pero no todos tienen la información que nos compartes.
Te paso un link para que puedas agregar esa información, se directa y se podrá observar cada vez que deseen ver la información de tu mamá.
Espero que te sea de ayuda esta información, si tienes mas consultas , solo escríbela, y te ayudaremos en lo que podamos...
Saludos !!!!
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FYI
I am just another 'lowly' User/Patron ...
[ And, I happen to be a Member of the Church ... ]
You are not alone ...
Sadly, many of us totally understand your desire ...
Now ...
That Said ...
Unfortunately, what you desire, about NOT recording, the "Couple" Relation, CANNOT be affected.
There is no such provision for such.
And, NOT to be insensitive ...
One CANNOT 'Whitewash' HISTORY ... it IS, what it WAS ...
IF, you; or, your immediately Family, DO NOT, take the initiative; and, record what "Happened" now, WITH the ability, to 'set the record straight', with the "Facts", later on (and, most likely, sooner, rather than later), ANOTHER User/Patron, may (and, I would suggest, WILL) come along [as, you have already experienced]; and, ADD the "Couple" Relationship; but, unfortunately, will NOT have ALL the "Facts".
You DO NOT, have to ADD, an "Event", for the "Couple" Relationship (ie. Leave it "Blank"), which will NOT enable "Sealing"; and, you can ADD copious "Notes" EVERYWHERE you can; as, to WHY the "Couple", should NOT be "Sealed".
Basically, certainly much better, being done NOW, by you, with the assistance (and, knowledge of) your immediate Family, rather than being done, LATER on, by an "Extended" Family member (or, even, a User/Patron, that is NOT associated with your immediate Family), much removed.
Just my thoughts.
Again, you are not alone ...
There are many that have ... been there ... done that ...
I know, that this is certainly not what you wanted to 'hear'; but, I hope, that this may provide, some insight; and, another perspective, for you (and, your immediate Family) to, consider; and, move forward.
Brett
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"Researchers (not in our family) keep attaching the biological father to my grandmother as a "spouse" without record and my mother as a child."
Remember that about 2/3 of FamilySearch users (including myself) are not members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. They cannot see the ordinances in the FSFT and many have never heard of them and don't understand their significance to Latter Day Saints. New non-LDS users of FamilySearch are not told about the interaction between the FSFT and LDS ordinances. The users that have been editing members of your family are probably doing so in good faith, and are simply recording what their research has uncovered. They may not understand the religious implications of their edits.
And I completely agree with @Brett . Recording the truth should be the highest priority for all FSFT users.
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